Thursday, July 8, 2010


Since nobody is really reading this blog, it's not really important when I last wrote here, nobody cares anyway. Still, I'd like to say that I haven’t really posted in a while partly because of the so-called blogger's block and partly because I wasn’t that INSPIRED anymore -- I guess, the muses have abandoned me. Lol.

As always, the times where the itch to write was great, however, would come on unexpected situations or when I am lying in bed, trying my best to fall asleep. My thoughts would be running around in circles, jumping from one topic to another (isn’t this scary?!) and I literally would become nauseous -- perhaps because my neurons, if any, are exhausted. Eventually though, sleep would come.

The latest "topic" that came to mind is about how our friends are not alike. Of course obviously, they have different personalities and traits but still, they are your friends. We have learned to treasure them.

We have friends that we could call our "soulmates" because of being in sync with us at all times. There are also the sweet and thoughtful friends -- those who, regardless of not seeing/hearing from them for a while, are still the same old chums you used to know. For instance, some of my high school and college friends --- they may have changed physically, but they were the same boys/girls you used to know. We also have our weird but lovable friends -- you have nothing in common with them, yet you "click."

Now we also have friends who seemed to have metamorphosed -- no, not into cute little butterflies, but into monsters of sorts. Of course the cliché, "Only CHANGE is permanent in this world" comes to mind, and while that is true (and a perfect excuse), I have concluded that this metamorphosis has a common denomination: OVERINDULGENCE.

A.k.a. the spoiled brats.

These are the ones who want to be treated like they are Mr./Ms. High and Mighty and yes, they are Mr./Ms. Perfect. When you're friends with them, be afraid…Be very afraid. If for them you are not an EQUAL, I assure you, you will be treated like crap. If you're such a very unfortunate individual, you can also become their favorite pal to pick on. This then will make you feel like crap too and then you adapt the habit of belittling yourself.

You will feel miniscule just like an amoeba floating in the toilet bowl --- amongst the shit.


In spite of the fact that you have "served" them well, humbled yourself upon them, and apologized profusely when you know you are the one at fault, still these supposed friends of yours will never fail to make you feel so bad that your gut hurts.

Still you try…and try…and try harder and harder…all to no avail. Perhaps it is easier for them to ignore you.

Admittedly, we have chosen them to be a part of our lives; yet we also have a choice to let them go.

So why prolong the agony? You should not be somebody's beck and call. The minute this realization sinks in, you should run. FAST. Never look back. These people are not worthy of you. It is a waste of time and energy pleasing these people. Do not overburden yourself with them. Instead, prioritize your other friends -- those who really truly care for you and love and accept you and most of all, RESPECT you for who you are, albeit the arguments and fights, big or small, that you have with them.

This friendship is long past its expiration date. Don’t stay just out of habit.

It is time to cut them loose.


francine said...

im. a fan of your blog... and i love this... its the truth. somewhat it hurts but we have to accept the truth. coz we are living in the real world..and this is what is really happening no matter how we wanted to preserve and treasure that friendship. its beyond our control.... but on the brighter side. we have those good memories treasure.....

cant wait for another blog.... keep it going, u have that potential in you.

pseudoleebieme said...

thank you, your comment means a lot. really. thank u really. it's just sad that some friendships just have to end. misunderstanding and arguments happen and we should be humbled esp if we are the ones who make mistakes..yet, some just can't go down their high horses..and still the ones who have always let go of their pride are the bad guys. but then, to each his own. thanks again!

alter ego said...

very well said my dear...i think you should really pursue writing. you are very good at it. i will be your no. 1 fan.

and you are right...let those kind of "friends" go. just like what i have said before and i will say it again, "there are people, circumstances, and even pieces of ourselves that serve us for part of our journey. they are not meant to keep us company for the whole way - in order to travel to our next destination, we will need to let them go."

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pseudoleebieme said...

@alter ego: thank you very much, i really appreciate this.

i will always remember what you said, and you are very, very right-- we shouldn't carry everything in our journey; we have to leave some things behind or else, it will only be a burden.

thank u my sweets!

Jon said...

I was reading the comments and I totally forgot what you were talking about in your blog. I was so shocked @ how good you are with the English language. You write as though you are simply breezing through a very hard chore that no one is willing to take. I was totally amazed with the way you write. I am begining to feel a bit unsure with how I write. Honestly, you are one good writer. I think you should pursue a career on that field. Very nice Sho! Keep it up!:)

pseudoleebieme said...

@jon: i am very, very flattered, coming from someone who i consider of the best writers in this generation.

thanks so much! i sure do hope i could go on and write soon! :-)