Wednesday, August 1, 2012

Still on the "T" Word....

There’s no magic machine, you don’t put in a quarter and out drops a can of trust — it grows (or RE-grows) over time. ******************************************************
Oh, how i missed blogging!

The "T" Word (and rebuilding it...)

Rome wasn't built in a day. It did not happen overnight. The process took time. It was a long and slow journey for the workers, and took a lot of patience. If patience was not the greatest virtue of those builders, there would be no Rome today. The same goes for us, people. Everything in life is not always easy. We must learn to walk before we can run. And the best way to be understood is to be understanding. "The key to everything is patience. You get the chicken by hatching the egg, not by smashing it open." -Arnold Glasgow (written on July 30, 2012)


WHEN PEOPLE REBUKE US...some of us might be taken aback because we never noticed or felt that we have anything to do with what is happening, and then we go on blaming other people, then complain or feel victimized -- now all we see is how the other person treats us and then choose to be stuck in thinking that we are the "victim" because that is way much easier. This is far from the truth, but an unfortunate reality for some. As a friend put it, "the mentality of an underachiever."
Solution? Take responsibility. I read somewhere that "Constructive action is the opposite of victimized brooding." In life, we either respond or react. So instead of reacting or overreacting, we should respond to the situation by realizing that, yes, we are part of the problem. It may be hard to admit that, but we can proactively approach the situation instead of playing the blame game and seek to understand before being understood. "Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, but he who hates correction is stupid." -- Proverbs 12:1 (NIV) (written on July 22, 2012)


Our family members, yes, RELATIVES, are supposed to protect us, make us feel secure and safe, not knock us down or bully us. Yet, time and again we get disrespected or disregarded because of the mistakes that we have or have not made. We can try to understand what drove them to do so, although there would be always be the possibility that we may never understand their reasons. Forgiveness is the key of course, but, it's just sad that these people are our "family" - and they are the ones who quickly judge us. I read somewhere that "A great family member will show you the tarnish, but then sit with you and help you clean and polish until you gleam again. It is an experience that although uncomfortable still feels productive and safe." This SHOULD be the case. Well, to each his own. As Jesus said, “Let him who is without sin cast the first stone.” Bato-bato sa langit! Good afternoon y'all! :) (written on July 18, 2012)

Happy birthday bunsoy!

Happy 15th birthday to my bunsoy, Elijah Bonaobra...Wow, 15 years! We have seen you grow up to what you are right now and it has been one super roller coaster ride. We wish you well for the roller coaster ride that your life is now about to throw to you! Happy Birthday Kukuy! We love you! - love mommy, daddy and kuya (written on July 14, 2012)

Monday, April 9, 2012

Crystal clear...

I am never enough for anybody. When I was a child, I was always compared to somebody better. ("Why can't you be like ____ who does well in Math/has high grades?" Why don't you imitate ____?")

As an adult, I would always play second or third fiddle; e.g., as a wife, there would always be somebody better than me, ergo, the infidelities.

Yes, I am being swallowed in the dark hole of self-pity. But I am dead tired of never being able to meet one's expectations. To always be a disappointment. When people treat me well, only a few of them are really genuine about it. Otherwise, it's either they only want something in return OR they are just "obligated" to do it -- just so that I wouldn't feel bad (or make them look bad). Come on. Nobody has to patronize me. I don't like "owing" anybody anything!

So really, it's very obvious. There is something wrong with me. I would never be good enough. I might not even be really worth it.

Perhaps, everything is just a facade.

Tuesday, March 20, 2012

Crumble, crumble

"You cannot let go of anything if you cannot notice that you are holding it. Admit your 'weaknesses' and watch them morph into your greatest strengths." --------Neale Donald Walsch

I missed writing here. We'll I won't be writing a lengthy piece at this time. Just something that occurred to me.

Some people are like glass. Sometimes it’s better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting them back together. Sometimes though, getting a couple of cuts might be worth it, sometimes it's not.

After all, the only thing that keeps it together is either the glue or tape that we put on it, but try removing even just the tiniest bit and it will go crumbling down.